"I hear this phrase a lot "act like a man" or "be a man". My question is, what is a man? Not the definition written by other peoples ideals, but from your own opinion and heart. I personally don't have a clue what it means to be a man, cause I don't want to be like any other 'man' around me, I want to be me, no matter how flawed. its a bit hard to hear this and told to be a man when i am a woman and i think its so rude and selfish of you and crazy of you to abuse me like this."