Unpopular Opinions One thing I hate about myself is my ability to play people. Like,...

if I want you to like me, you can bet darn sure that I’ll get you to at least not dislike me. I’m so good at reading people, knowing what reaction to give to make sure that I make a good impression, that I feel like I erase myself in the process. I also never allow myself to get too close to people. At least not for a good long while. You can't dislike a person you barely know, right? That's why I stay to the sidelines. I hide. My mom once asked my dad’s dad (legit one of the wisest and kindest people I have ever known) “Which is more important: honesty or diplomacy?” My grandpa thought about it for a while and then replied: “it is more important to be kind”. As a woman of conscience, I know that there needs to be diplomacy in things. Words need to be phrased just so for them to be acceptable. You can’t just say whatever you want. It does no good to insult or push people away. As a woman of science, I understand the value of complete and total honesty. The world would go to pot without honesty. And there was a time when I would say that I’d rather everyone be 100% honest about everything than ever try to hide a thought. Even now, I’m pretty sure I won’t post this because I don’t want to offend people. Let me just say this to myself and to anyone else out there who has a problem with this kind of behavior: You will never know true happiness until you let go of the need for everyone else to be happy. I struggle with depression, but I was born to make people happy. That’s why I’m here. It’s not an opinion, but a statement of fact. I was born to depressed parents (hence the depression now in my twenties) but I was born to make people, them, and others, happy. From a young age, I learned what I needed to about people to make them smile to make them happy. Now I’m a mess because I never give my real opinions. I just give what people want to hear. Let me start now, here are my opinions that I tend to keep to myself for fear of hurting them: I’m against gay marriage. I think marriage is between a man and a woman. I want everyone to be happy and I don’t want to begrudge anyone finding love, but this is what I believe. I’m a Christian and I have friends who are bi and gay. I have friends with opinions that I don’t agree with. I have friends with habits I don’t agree with. I don’t like licorice. I think it’s gross and I don’t understand why they sell it at movie theaters. I think pumpkin spice is over-rated. I love it, but I find the hype really annoying. I like Korean Dramas. It’s like a soap opera with cultural references I will never understand. I like love stories. Pure, simple love stories. The story of how your grandparents met or how your parents met. I love hearing about people in love. I am a Christian, a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, a Mormon. I believe that I am saved through Christ. I also believe that Christ’s original church has been reestablished in these last days before the Savior’s second coming. I don’t really like animals because I’m allergic to them. If I ever say that I like one certain type of animal over another, chances are it’s because I know that you like one over the other and I’m trying to be on your side. I really like flowers. I think they’re pretty even when they’ve been dead in a vase for three months. I think Jane Austen’s Emma had a better love story than Pride and Prejudice. I don’t like the movie “The Titanic” I’m afraid of being rejected so I run away a lot. I’m afraid of being forgotten so I try to forget first. I recognize these as unhealthy behaviors and have, as yet, done nothing to correct them. I think grits are gross. So is coleslaw. And the smell of pulled pork makes me sick. I like buying DVDs instead of digital copies so I can watch movies in different languages. I think it’s okay to break gender norms, but not okay to change your gender. I believe gender to be a divine part of you, but it doesn’t necessarily need to dictate everything about your behavior. I actually like green smoothies, even though I never eat them anymore. I can, apparently, make a very long list of opinions that may or may not be problematic. I don't blame anyone for being angry or hurt over my opinions or beliefs. I'm sure I wouldn't agree with everything you believe either. I hope we can still get along despite that.

By Anonymous on General,